Is there a man in your life that you really like but it’s impossible to tell if he feels the same? Or have you spotted someone across the dance floor and would like to know if you’ve caught his attention? Well, you wouldn’t be the first!
Lots of women around the world find it difficult to know when a guy is interested, and fortunately there are many ways to tell and most of them are a lot more obvious than you think!
Here is the definitive guide on how to tell if a man likes you…
“Moveeeeee closer … move your body real close…”
If a guy happens to lean in closer to you, this is a very good sign he’s interested. Getting up close and personal is a guy’s way of telling you he likes the look of you, and wants to get nearer to your beautiful self.
It may be that they just sit nearer to you, or only slightly lean in during conversation. Look out for any subtle movements and take note of how close they seem to be getting.
In a loud place like a night club, guys can be pretty obvious when it comes to flirting with women, as they will use the noise as an excuse to get really close! So the next time a guy leans in right up to your ear so you can hear them, they are using the noise as an excuse to get as close as they can get.
Eye contact
If a guy likes you he will find it difficult to keep his eyes anywhere else but on you. Some guys might be a little obvious and stare right at you for quite a while. Others might be a little shy and just make quick glances when they think you’re not looking.
Either way, try to catch them peeping at you and return their gaze with a smile. If you don’t, then they may think you’re not interested. Once a guy thinks they have no chance, they may start to look elsewhere and their focus could shift onto someone else.
Love is touching
Whether it’s a touch on the arm or a hug, if a guy likes you then he will be keen to make contact. You do have to be careful however not to get confused with a friendly hug, as a lot of men nowadays can give out hugs like there’s no tomorrow!
It all depends on the person, and how well you know them. If you’ve known them for years and you have a great friendship, then hugging may just be the normal way you greet each other. Are they acting differently around you compared with their other friends, and is this normal behaviour?
We meet again
If you happen to bump into a guy quite often is it just coincidence, or is he purposely going out of his way to see you?
Take note the next time you bump into him and see how often it happens. If a guy likes you he might make the effort to hang out where you do. A good example of this might be a work colleague who always seems to be getting a coffee at the same time as you.
This may be the perfect opportunity to strike up a conversation and get to know him better. If there is a works social coming up you might want to ask him if he’s going, and tell him to come and say hi. This is a really subtle way of asking him out without making it all ‘official’.
“Listen carefully – I shall say this only once…”
Is he paying attention to you and hanging on every word you say? This is a good sign he’s interested because men usually like to talk about themselves, and if he’s making the effort to listen to you and take interest, then he could like you!
Is he also asking you questions? This is also a great sign that he’s interested in you. He could be trying to find out what your interests are because he wants to ask you out. For example, your favourite restaurant, or what music you like to listen to.
This could of course just be a guy acting polite and friendly, but it usually means he’s interested in you and wants to find out as much about you as he can for future reference.
You scare him
If a guy likes you then he may act shy and nervous when you’re around. Just your very presence may put him out of his comfort zone, and he may act differently.
It could be that he muddles his words, or even stumbles when he walks by you. Even the most basic of tasks could become difficult as he thinks that you’re taking in his every step.
Although you may not really be paying much attention, a guy will think you are watching his every move – the way he speaks, walks, acts, or the conversations he has. You have now become big brother, and he may act completely different around you.
However, if you don’t notice anything different and he seems to be his usual self, this could just be that he’s hiding it well or he’s very confident around women. Usually, most men aren’t as confident around women as they think they are, and find it hard to act naturally.
Compliments
If a guy pays you a compliment, this usually means they’re interested. Why? Well, try to remember the last time a guy paid you a compliment (that isn’t a really good friend)!
If he compliments you on your new haircut or says how much he likes your new dress, then he’s paying attention. If a guy goes out of his way to tell you how nice you look today, then it’s a great sign he likes you.
Again, not many men would like to admit to this, but you will rarely find a guy that goes out of his way to compliment a woman just because he wants to be nice. He’s clearly making an effort to not only talk to you, but to also make you feel good about yourself whilst dropping a hint that he likes you.
Add friend
Social networking is a great way for a guy to flirt with you, without all the embarrassment of asking you out in person. If he adds you on Facebook this is usually an obvious sign he likes you right from the start.
Social networking is also an easier way to talk with a guy, as they are usually less nervous when they are sat in the comfort of their own home. A guy will be more open when they can chat through Facebook than in person.
Why don’t you just ask?
In the traditional sense it’s always been the guy that asks the girl out. This isn’t the case anymore, and you shouldn’t be afraid to just ask. Don’t spend too long trying to figure out his every move; otherwise the opportunity may pass you by.
Although these great tips will make it much easier to find out if a guy likes you, the only sure fire way of knowing is to ask. If you’re too nervous to ask them in person, then social networking or texting can be the easiest way, and is usually a lot less nerve racking.
Or instead, you could ask one of your friends to find out for you. Your friend needs to be subtle though and say things like, ‘Jennifer is single. Why don’t you ask her out?’
If you do get rejected then so what! At least you know where you stand and you don’t have to keep guessing whether you have a chance or not. And instead of spending half your time wondering if they like you or not, you could be spending that time on someone else that does…